Letting the Tides of Life Move You
There was a point in my life, about 5 years ago, when I felt utterly bereft. Of love, family, identity, security. I had gone through tremendous losses, some of them because of conscious choices, and some that came like a thief in the night. I also moved to San Diego during this time. It felt [...]
Why is it so hard to rest and play?
You know how to walk, talk, and tie your shoelaces because at some point, you practiced very, very hard to figure out how. These things took enormous effort, and somehow, they seem just so simple now. Amongst my clients and many of us, there are three things we assume we should know how to do, [...]
Boundaries That Set You Free
I have been relearning the definition of “boundaries.” It’s one of those funny words that has a collection of socialized confusion around it. Most people don’t like the word. I didn’t. To me, it meant restriction, wrong-doing, aggression, conflict. Think of dividers like the Berlin Wall, the Great Wall of China, and barbed wire fences. [...]
Wild for Horses
I’ve been spending all of 2011 training with Koelle Simpson to bring horses into my coaching practice, an innovative method called Equus Coaching. I thought it was time to share my experience and deep passion for these four-legged teachers. At its core, equus coaching blends equine psychology with coaching practices. Koelle has been masterful at combining [...]
Booyah to ALL of it: the secret to flow
I’ve got LIFE on the brain. Yesterday would have been my sister’s birthday. This afternoon, I sat and watched a neighbor say goodbye to the love of her life. He had passed away in the night. Joe was only 56. Just two days ago, a friend asked me over a ridiculously nice dinner, “Why do [...]
What to do when you’re on a bridge, the in-betweens in life
There are times in life when you are neither here nor there. It’s a time of in-between, when things are extremely undefined. A time when your mind absolutely loves to freak out. Why? Because your mind wants certainty. It wants to know — Why, How Come, What For, When?! These times may come when you’re [...]
Just Turn It Into A Dance
Tonight, at the end of my 5 Rhythms dance practice, a powerful moving meditation, I came to realize that I had surrendered, in dance, with deep love and trust. Surrender had always been a dirty word, because my victim usually lives in my act of surrendering. I surrender only at the end, when I’m exhausted, [...]
Quiet Power
People often talk about being power hungry, and our egos can certainly crave a kind of power — control, aggression, force, fame — these are powers that make the ego insatiable. Ego power is insatiable because it is rooted in fear. But of late, I am noticing a different kind of power, a subtle power [...]
Moving Through Transitions
Irish is at a fast trot. My legs have finally learned how to post and root me into the rhythm of his movements, at least while we’re going straight. But into a turn and I have yet to learn how to move with this literal horse power! I find myself out of balance, out of [...]
2010 – A Heroine’s Journey
It’s the kind of confession that every blogger has to eventually post, maybe time and again: Forgive me for it’s been a long time since my last post, but I and life, well, we’ve been pretty active. In writing and sharing, there’s an ebb and flow of experiencing and pouring out your guts. Well my [...]
